10 Tips For Your Post Break-Up ‘Year of Firsts’

Written By Featured Guest Blogger (and our friend) Tara Fass L.M.F.T.

For the newly separated or divorced the 'Year of Firsts' is a kind of mourning. The most intense time of grieving is the first 365 days, though every year may present challenges.  Your ex's birthday, when they moved out or made it impossible to stay, the day you knew, "It's over;" all may conjure up sensitivities. 


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Featured Article | Emotional First Aid: Why Therapy Is a 'Must' After Divorce

People evolve differently and the lights can dim on all kinds of relationships over time.  Understand the ‘Dance of the Pursuer/Distancer.’  Two people rarely arrive at the decision to separate or divorce on the same emotional timeline.  One often prefers to stay together while the other makes it impossible to stay, or leaves.  When a relationship becomes unsustainable in the best of times, well then, saying farewell may be the better option.  Even if the parting of ways was your idea, saying good bye tends to be hard emotionally and even physically painful.


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Should You Avoid Divorce Until Your Children Are Older?

While some children benefit from their parents avoiding divorce and sticking things longer in the relationship, some do not because the marriage has deteriorated to such an extreme degree. Essentially, it all depends on the marriage itself, and how the parents interact with one another. For example, if you and you partner can be civil around the house, then waiting until your child is a little older might work well. However, if you and your spouse yell and fight on regular basis, then you should split up and get divorced immediately.


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