People evolve differently and the lights can dim on all kinds of relationships over time. Understand the ‘Dance of the Pursuer/Distancer.’ Two people rarely arrive at the decision to separate or divorce on the same emotional timeline. One often prefers to stay together while the other makes it impossible to stay, or leaves. When a relationship becomes unsustainable in the best of times, well then, saying farewell may be the better option. Even if the parting of ways was your idea, saying good bye tends to be hard emotionally and even physically painful.