Lessons Learned from Divorcing An Emotional Vampire

A co-authored article inspired by a real wife and mom’s experience with her ex-husband

A reader recently wrote in with this question:  “How do you deal with an emotional vampire?

She said she heard the phrase on the radio and when searching for the meaning, she discovered a book with the same title,  written by Dr. Albert J. Bernstien, Ph.D.  The reader went on to write:  


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Protecting Your Future Before, During and After Divorce

In the midst of divorce, it is only natural to become overwhelmed by your emotions.

Ending a marriage, even under the best of circumstances, is hard. Often spouses feel deeply disappointed and afraid, and this disappointment and fear can naturally turn into anger at the other spouse.

As friends and family rally around to offer support, they sometimes make the mistake of criticizing the soon to be ex. All too often friends will try to build one party up by tearing the other party down.

Lawyers are notorious for offering support in this manner, encouraging parties to fight for more in...


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5 Tips for Fixing a Hot Mess: Life After Divorce

Divorce can feel like a hot mess. You look polished and put-together on the outside, but feel like you’re crumbling on the inside. So what can you do to get back to good after a breakup? These five tips will get you several steps closer to the proverbial other side of your divorce.


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Breaking Up Is Normal, Get Over It!

I hope you’re here visiting it's over easy as a curious tourist surfing the web rather than facing the end of your marriage. If you are here researching divorce, listen to Laura. She knows divorce and wants to give you a pathway that is efficient and direct so that you have the room to focus your energy on everything but the machinations of divorce. We should all have care providers with Laura’s pragmatism, authenticity, tenderness, and strength so that we can focus on the deeper things divorce asks of us.


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L.O.V.E. Redefined After Divorce

Written By Featured Guest Blogger (and our friend) Elizabeth Winkler, MA LMFT

Sanskrit has 96 words for love; ancient Persian has 80, Greek three, and English only one. This is indicative of the poverty of awareness or emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling. Eskimos have 30 words for snow, because it is a life-and-death matter to them to have exact information about the element they live with so intimately. If we had a vocabulary of 30 words for love ... we would immediately be richer and more intelligent in this human element so close to our heart. An...


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