I hope you’re here visiting it's over easy as a curious tourist surfing the web rather than facing the end of your marriage. If you are here researching divorce, listen to Laura. She knows divorce and wants to give you a pathway that is efficient and direct so that you have the room to focus your energy on everything but the machinations of divorce. We should all have care providers with Laura’s pragmatism, authenticity, tenderness, and strength so that we can focus on the deeper things divorce asks of us.
Written By Featured Guest Blogger (and our friend) Elizabeth Winkler, MA LMFT
“Sanskrit has 96 words for love; ancient Persian has 80, Greek three, and English only one. This is indicative of the poverty of awareness or emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling. Eskimos have 30 words for snow, because it is a life-and-death matter to them to have exact information about the element they live with so intimately. If we had a vocabulary of 30 words for love ... we would immediately be richer and more intelligent in this human element so close to our heart. An...
People evolve differently and the lights can dim on all kinds of relationships over time. Understand the ‘Dance of the Pursuer/Distancer.’ Two people rarely arrive at the decision to separate or divorce on the same emotional timeline. One often prefers to stay together while the other makes it impossible to stay, or leaves. When a relationship becomes unsustainable in the best of times, well then, saying farewell may be the better option. Even if the parting of ways was your idea, saying good bye tends to be hard emotionally and even physically painful.
One of the hardest things a parent must do while going through a divorce is telling their children.
It can be an emotional time period and a highly-charged conversation. Once you and your current spouse have made the decision to move forward with the divorce, it is important to tell the news to your children. This moment is not only monumental in your life but also in theirs and consequently, you must treat it with great care.
Above all, make sure it is clear to your children that they are not to blame for this divorce; dispel it so that they will not feel guilty. Let your children’s...