Divorcing a Narcissist? Here are 5 Tips to Remember

‘Let us never negotiate out of fear.  But let us never fear to negotiate.’John. F. Kennedy

Many of us are not prepared for the behaviour of our partners during divorce, until we come to the conclusion - sometimes too late – that our partner is a narcissist.  I learned this the hard way.  

Irrespective that I was a highly paid executive in the Financial Markets, I had allowed my husband to control our finances.  WRONG!

My luxurious life as an expat in Hong Kong, ended overnight when my husband decided our marriage was over.  Our savings account disappeared quicker than I could blink,...


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Film Review: Nothing is Black and White in “Custody”

High conflict custody is familiar fodder for movies.  From 1979's "Kramer vs. Kramer"  featuring Meryl Streep and Dustin Hoffman to the film “Boyhood”  that came out a few years ago, most are tame compared to "Custody"

Watching “Custody” reminded me of the days I worked for the Superior Court of Los Angeles as a child custody mediator and evaluator.  We called the public spaces around our office the 'Hall of Tears.'  This film takes viewers on a multitude of harrowing wrong turns and lost opportunities in a bitter custody battle, as a consequence of a messy divorce.  

Here are 8 takeaways...


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Power To The People!

Laura Wasser knows better than anyone that getting divorced is a costly bitch ... but, thankfully the disso queen's got ya covered.


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How to Have an Amicable Divorce with Your Spouse: 4 Tips

My divorce happened suddenly, catching me totally unaware.  With an 8-week-old baby daughter to care for, I was definitely not expecting to be dealing with a marriage break up.  But that’s exactly what I was doing!

After having some time to accept my new marital status, I understood very quickly I had a choice as to how I would conduct myself in our impending Divorce.  There were two very separate pathways I could follow in my Divorce.


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Child Custody: Traveling with Kids After Divorce

Sitting at LAX. My kids and I missed our early morning flight and will be spending a few hours people watching.

Once the disappointment of not being on the beach by noon today subsides, we focus on all of the families traveling through the less than impressive airport in our fair city.

Many different languages, skin colors and familial make ups trudge past. Two parents, three kids – one parent, one kid and a grandmother – one parent, one clearly new and younger girlfriend and two not much older than the girlfriend teenagers (yikes!)– We try to figure out how each family or group is related...


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